tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post7543468741600791812..comments2023-08-08T07:47:27.134-05:00Comments on Gardening with a Not-So-Angry Redhead: Mawwiage - That bootifoow awwangementNotSoAngryRedHeadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11483848154656500575noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-78598053692895272752009-03-26T18:47:00.000-05:002009-03-26T18:47:00.000-05:00Cheers, Adam! I really appreciate the encourageme...Cheers, Adam! I really appreciate the encouragement. And didn't you know? I'm the coolest cat around!NotSoAngryRedHeadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11483848154656500575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-21493536675018410962009-03-26T18:19:00.000-05:002009-03-26T18:19:00.000-05:00I LOVE the seating idea! That's a great way to he...I LOVE the seating idea! That's a great way to help with the clique factor. Yes, technically, weddings are for other people and not the bride and groom. I hope you have a wonderful wedding. You seem like a very cool cat.Adamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13147082007551719263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-43997852297149127392009-03-26T13:53:00.000-05:002009-03-26T13:53:00.000-05:00That's very true - not every single piece is going...That's very true - not every single piece is going to be side-by-side. I suppose I can pick things according to what I like. That's how I garden. I figure if it's something I like, then it'll all blend together because I like things based on my own aesthetic. Still, I'm worried about cohesion. I still want it to make sense. For a class in grad school, we did a museum exhibit where each NotSoAngryRedHeadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11483848154656500575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-20445773535809673872009-03-26T13:15:00.000-05:002009-03-26T13:15:00.000-05:00Don't worry whatsoever about if it all is streamli...Don't worry whatsoever about if it all is streamlined and flows together. Choose things that you like, that you will be comfortable with, that you will want to remember and have pictures / memories of. The experience is for you and the groom, not other people. Wedding parties (bridesmaids and groomsmen) and guest only evolved out of the necessity of needing a witness to prove the event (Adamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13147082007551719263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-19067260662134079532009-03-26T09:35:00.000-05:002009-03-26T09:35:00.000-05:00Jan - Ha! Actually the difficulty of divorce has ...Jan - Ha! Actually the difficulty of divorce has been a factor in my discomfort of being married. That might sound TERRIBLE, but the thing is that I don't consider myself any better than anyone else. 50% of Americans didn't think they would get divorced when they got married, but they still got divorced. I don't think I'm better than that 50% or more knowledgeable or whatever. I don't expectNotSoAngryRedHeadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11483848154656500575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-74312318304538482662009-03-26T08:04:00.000-05:002009-03-26T08:04:00.000-05:00Last year my husband and I 'celebrated' ou...Last year my husband and I 'celebrated' our 30th anniversary of wedded 'bliss'!! That's a fairy-tale! It's impossible to be 'blissful' for 30 yrs-though it's worked itself out to a fairly 'smooth' place, I'd say! The thing with 'marriage' is that if you decide it ISN'T working out, divorce is a hassle in more ways than one. If you aren&#Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12844013803699228989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-28694174408245457962009-03-25T09:38:00.000-05:002009-03-25T09:38:00.000-05:00It's a lot of stress planning a wedding. After wa...It's a lot of stress planning a wedding. After watching 2 of my sisters and several of my friends plan giant weddings and all the stress they had, we had a small wedding in my parents backyard. My dress was a very simple non wedding gown type of dress. A lot of the reasons I got married was for the same ones you had, especially for kids, although nowadays that doesn't seem to make a differenceCatherine@AGardenerinProgresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05001060769253273283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-90813211286990659512009-03-25T07:58:00.000-05:002009-03-25T07:58:00.000-05:00Hi Angryredhead- I did the exact same as you. Waff...Hi Angryredhead- I did the exact same as you. Waffled when it finally came down to doing it. We had been together for 5.5 yrs and owned a house together for 3 of those. We finally went to the judge and got married, no hassle, no fuss, no major money spent (I put it in the yard and house instead:) I felt good about that. We don't have kids together but his is now a 25 yr old girl and mine is a 13 Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10737367324901967724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-49823679473405249942009-03-25T07:03:00.000-05:002009-03-25T07:03:00.000-05:00I understand what you're going through, I didnot m...I understand what you're going through, I did<BR/>not marry until about 5 years ago I am 44<BR/>years old now but happily married and can't have children. Congrats and hopefully you'll be happy!Cathy S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06700015918246143129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-78821845776870181362009-03-25T04:05:00.000-05:002009-03-25T04:05:00.000-05:00I so understand the ambivalence, I think. I chose ...I so understand the ambivalence, I think. I chose to get married because I wanted to and felt it was a personal commitment. But it's not just personal, it's a public statement. I felt a bit weird - like was I letting down my feminist principles? Also, everyone was so happy, and I was not used to social approval, it felt quite uncomfortable. Nevertheless, I did it, had a very small casual event Sue Catminthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14242341696447975933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-11404841281700548422009-03-25T00:40:00.000-05:002009-03-25T00:40:00.000-05:00Congratulations. I'm not a psychologist but I thin...Congratulations. I'm not a psychologist but I think I understand a bit of what's going on. Your ambivalence about what marriage means is carrying over into choosing particulars for the ceremony. <BR/><BR/>If it were me, I'd opt for a small intimate wedding and a large reception/party. I'm sure you've thought of this though... All the best to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4070454815246698804.post-16679102956810348022009-03-24T23:26:00.000-05:002009-03-24T23:26:00.000-05:00I know what you mean. I didn't have an aisle to wa...I know what you mean. I didn't have an aisle to walk down or anyone giving me away or any of that in my wedding. I did wear a "wedding dress," but it was from J Crew and not poufy or anything.<BR/>Something about standing in a church chock full of people made me queasy. If we had to do it that way, we wouldn't have done it. We ended up having the vows (no big ceremony, just vows) in a garden Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11904073032627748614noreply@blogger.com